How to text a guy about deleting his dating profile

If he's still logging in after weeks of seeing you, that's a choice he's making. Some guys keep profiles active out of habit or fear of commitment. Some are still shopping. The only way to know which one he is, is to ask directly.

His silence on the topic is the loudest answer he can give you. If you've been exclusive for a few weeks and he hasn't brought it up, he either doesn't see this going anywhere or he's avoiding a conversation he knows needs to happen. Neither of those is ambiguous once you sit with it.

Your message needs to be matter-of-fact, not emotional. State what you've done and ask what he's doing. No lectures, no 'I thought you cared about me,' no waiting to see if he'll volunteer the information first.

A good message does two things. It gets him to answer the actual question without feeling attacked. And it shows him you're comfortable talking about exclusivity and future plans. Guys respect that directness more than they respect games. He either says yes and means it, or he gives you a non-answer that tells you exactly what you need to know.

Send your message during the day when he's likely working or in a normal headspace, not drunk at midnight. If he doesn't respond within three days, that's your answer. He's either not interested in committing or he's avoiding the conversation because he knows what he should say and doesn't want to say it.

If he responds but equivocates, gives a vague answer, or says he'll do it eventually, that's a no. Don't ask again. A guy who wants to be with you doesn't need convincing to delete an app. If he hasn't done it by now, waiting longer won't change anything. You're choosing whether you accept a guy who's keeping his options open or you walk away.