Signs he is lying about loving you

Start by separating what he said from what he has done. Saying "I love you" costs nothing and can come out in the middle of a good night. Effort costs time, and time shows up in patterns you can count. Look at the last few weeks: how often he initiates contact, whether he makes plans that include you on the calendar, whether he's ever made you a priority over something he didn't have to move.

Pay attention to how he handles the word itself. Someone who means it tends to be a little awkward about it and then steadies. Someone who is performing will often move past it quickly, change the subject, or lean on it as a way to end a hard conversation. If he uses "I love you" to close an argument rather than to open a conversation, that's worth noticing. You're reading a sequence here, not a single text.

The most useful reply is usually a plain question that a person in love can answer easily. Something like asking what he pictures for the next few months, or whether he wants you to meet the people who matter to him. The question should be specific enough that a vague answer is obvious. Keep the tone curious rather than accusing. You're not building a trap, you're giving him a chance to show you.

The kind of reply to avoid is one that asks him to prove his feelings in the abstract, like "do you actually mean it." That invites a reassurance he can give without changing anything. A question about concrete next steps forces a real answer. If he responds with specifics, even modest ones, that's a signal. If he responds with "you know I do" and nothing more, that's also a signal, and you can take it at face value.

Don't interpret a hard question in the same night you ask it. Send it, then let a few days pass before you draw any conclusion. People who care often need a day or two to think about a real question, and their reply will be more honest for it. If he goes silent or gets defensive right away, that tells you something too, but it's better to see the whole pattern than to react to one awkward exchange.

If a week goes by and nothing has changed, stop asking the same question. Repeating it turns you into the person chasing a yes. At that point the useful move is to decide what you need, which might be clearer effort on his end or might be stepping back. You don't owe him a dramatic exit, but you also shouldn't keep running a test that has already given you an answer.