Should you text him to check if he's still interested

Before you send anything, figure out what the quiet actually means. A day or two of no response is normal. A week where he's not posting on social media or engaging with others is worth noticing. Two weeks of silence from someone you were texting regularly usually means he's lost interest or moved on.

If he's been quiet for more than a few days and he's typically responsive to other people, a casual message can be worth sending once. It's a low-pressure way to see if there's still something there. But if the silence has gone on for weeks and he's active elsewhere, sending a message probably won't change anything. Silence that long is already an answer.

Don't send a message hoping to win him back or prove you're worth his time. Instead, send something that gives him an easy way to respond if he wants to. Keep it short and real. Ask him something about his life or share something real from yours. The goal is to see if he engages when you actually start a conversation.

A good casual message also protects you from overthinking his response. If he replies and carries the conversation, that's clear interest. If he responds with one word or doesn't reply at all, you have your answer. Either way, you stop wondering and you can move on with actual information instead of hope.

Send your casual message during a normal time of day when people actually text, not late at night. Then wait at least three to five days before deciding what his lack of response means. People get busy. Some people are just slower texters.

If he replies and keeps the conversation going, he's interested. Text back and let things develop. If he replies but kills the conversation with one-word answers, that's a no. Stop trying. If he doesn't reply after a week, that's also a no. Don't send a second message. One casual check-in is enough. A second one switches from casual to chasing, and that won't help.