Should you suggest meeting first or wait for him to ask

If someone is texting you consistently for multiple days with real substance, he either sees potential and is figuring out if you're worth meeting, or he's comfortable enough with the dynamic that he doesn't feel pressure to move it forward. The second scenario wastes your time.

The signal to act is this: the conversation is flowing, you both are showing up, but there's no mention of seeing each other. That gap doesn't close itself. Guys who want to meet bring it up naturally or they're waiting to see if you will. Either way, someone has to say it. There's nothing to lose by being that person, especially if you're thoughtful about the framing.

The job of your message is to state that meeting makes sense without making it negotiable or giving him an easy out. You're not asking permission. You're saying this is the logical next thing, and you're inviting him to confirm.

Remove any softening language that signals doubt. No apologies, no "if you want to," no hedging. Suggest something specific enough that he's not starting from scratch, but loose enough that he can counter-offer. A place, a rough timeframe, an activity. Something concrete makes it feel real and reduces friction.

Timing matters more than you think. Late night texts read as less intentional, and he might not see it until morning when the moment has passed. A daytime message during the week, after you've had a good exchange, lands better. He sees it when he's awake and can actually think about his schedule.

If he doesn't respond within a day, don't spiral. He might be busy, or he might be sitting with it. Send one more substantive message in a day or two that doesn't reference the meetup. If that gets ignored, you have your answer. Stop reaching out. You've made the move. Now it's on him to reciprocate or not.