When she reschedules but won't pick a time

When someone says 'let me check my schedule,' they often mean 'I'll think about it when I remember.' But she almost certainly knows whether she's free on Tuesday or Friday. The vagueness isn't logistical. It's a signal about how much mental energy she's putting into this.

If she wanted to reschedule, she could text back within an hour with a real day. The fact that you're waiting three or four days for a non-answer tells you something. Not that it's over. Just that you're not top of her mind. That's different from 'she's not interested' but it matters for how you respond.

Your reply should do two things. First, prove you're still here without sounding like you're waiting for her. Second, make it stupid easy for her to say yes. That means suggesting one specific time slot, not asking her to generate options. Frame it as a 'does this work' question instead of an open-ended 'when are you free.'

The move is to pick a time you know works for you, mention it once, and tell her it's cool if it doesn't work. Then stop talking. Now she either confirms, says no and offers something else, or vanishes. All three outcomes tell you what you need to know.

Give her two full days from your last message to come back with a time. If she doesn't, send one message with a specific day and time. Don't apologize or hedge. Keep it short. 'How about Tuesday at 7?' works.

If she doesn't respond in the next 48 hours, move on. She had her chance to make it easy. A third message or a 'hey just checking in' just makes you the only one who cares. After two non-responses with clear openings, it's time to text someone else.