She used to send voice notes, now it's only text sometimes

The switch from voice to text tells you very little on its own. Look at what the texts actually contain. Does she ask you things back? Does she reference something you said earlier? Does she make jokes or add small details, or does every reply land at the same flat length? A text that gives you a real detail about her day is still an investment, even if it's typed. A text that just answers your question and stops is worth noticing.

Also check the timing. If she used to reply within an hour and now takes most of a day, the slowdown matters more than the medium. Lots of people switch to text when they're at work, commuting, or around other people, then send voice again once they're home. Give it a week or two before you decide anything has changed.

If the texts are warm and the gaps are normal for her, you're probably looking at a logistics shift. If both the medium and the warmth have dropped, the conversation may be losing momentum, and that calls for a different move.

A good reply here does three things. It responds to what she actually sent, so she knows you read it and cared. It adds something of your own, a detail, an opinion, or a small story, so the exchange has more than one thread. And it leaves her a natural next step, a question she can answer easily or a thread she can pick up.

Don't bring voice notes back as a demand. You can say you'd like to hear about something in person or on a call if that's the natural next step, but don't frame it as "send me a voice note." That turns her choice into your request. Let the texts carry more of the weight instead: send a slightly longer message when you have something to say, and use the question at the end to open space.

Keep your own length and energy steady. If you suddenly get shorter, she may read it as you pulling back. If you match her short replies exactly, the conversation tends to thin out. Aim for a message that's a little fuller than hers, not a monologue.

Send your messages during her normal waking hours, and don't pile on if she's slow to reply. For her usual pattern, a reasonable gap is about the length of her usual gap, plus a day. If she normally replies within a few hours and it's been a day and a half, one follow-up with a light, low-pressure line is fine. Make it a different kind of message from the first, a new thought or a small check-in rather than a repeat.

If there's still no answer, pause. Don't send a third message asking whether she's still interested. Wait several days before reaching out again, and when you do, open with something new and easy to answer. If she stays silent or only replies with one-word answers across a couple of weeks, the conversation has probably cooled, and the respectful move is to let it rest. A short, friendly close beats a slow fade with pointed messages.

If she comes back warmly after a gap, pick up where you left off without making a point about the silence. Matching her new pace usually works better than trying to reset the rhythm.