How to respond when she says let's hang soon but avoids setting dates

She likes the interaction. She likes the flattery of knowing you're interested. But 'soon' means she hasn't thought about actually doing it. If she had, she would have suggested a time. People who want to see you find a window. They might say 'I'm swamped next week but Thursday after work could work' or 'not until the 15th but let's lock it in then.' Soon is what you say when you want credit for being nice without the commitment.

This doesn't always mean she's stringing you along. Sometimes it just means you're not important enough to plan around yet. The person texting someone they're excited about gets a specific day. You're getting a maybe.

Your reply needs to do two things. First, propose something concrete with a specific day and time. Not 'coffee sometime' but 'coffee Tuesday at 4' or 'Thursday night drinks.' Give her something to say yes or no to. Second, make it clear you're waiting for an actual answer, not just a nice sentiment. You're not angry or sarcastic. You're just matter-of-fact about it.

The move is to say something like 'Tuesday work for you' and then stop. Don't add 'no pressure' or 'whenever you want.' Don't make it easier. You've put the ball in her court with a real option. Now she either confirms, proposes a different time, or ghosts. All three outcomes tell you what you need to know.

Send your concrete proposal during normal hours, not late at night. Then give her a full day to respond. If she comes back with a time, you're good. If she counters with a different day, she's interested enough to negotiate. Lock it in and move on.

If she doesn't respond in 24 to 48 hours, or if she says something vague again like 'yeah we should' without picking a time, do not send another message. You've made your ask. A second message looks like you're chasing. Move on to someone who responds. If she reaches out later with a real time, be open to it. But don't keep pitching when the interest isn't there.