Is texting twice bad if they haven't replied to either?

Two texts with no reply tell you less than the timing around them. If they've been active on the app, posting stories or replying to others, the silence is probably just low priority for them, not a statement about you. If they've gone quiet everywhere, it's more likely lost interest or a rough week. Check how long it's been since their last message to you, not just since yours went out.

The content of your first message matters too. A question that needed a real answer, like what they thought of a movie or where they'd go for a weekend, is easier to put off than a casual one-liner. If your first text asked for effort and they didn't reply, the second should make replying cheaper, not more urgent.

Give it a few days before judging. People reply late all the time. A text that goes unanswered on Tuesday can turn into a normal conversation by Friday.

The second text should be easier to answer than the first. A yes or no question, a quick reaction to something you found, or a short follow up on a detail they shared earlier all work well. Each gives them one easy thing to respond to. Anything that asks them to explain themselves, apologise, or restate their interest makes replying harder.

Avoid anything that reads as a reminder that they owe you a reply. Lines about how you figured they'd answer, or wanting to make sure they got your message, put the weight on them. Keep the second message about the conversation, not the silence.

If you have something new to share, like a photo, a link, or news from your week, that gives them a reason to respond without any pressure.

Once you've sent two texts and neither got a reply, a third is almost always a bad idea unless something has changed on their end. A third text rarely gets a different result and often makes the earlier silence look like something you're pushing back against. Stop there, unless you see a clear sign they were away, like a story from a trip or an earlier message saying they'd be busy.

If they do reply later, even weeks later, respond warmly and keep it light. Don't lead with the gap or ask what happened, since that puts them on the defensive. Let the conversation tell you whether there's still interest.

If you don't hear back, let it go. Silence after two honest attempts is an answer, even if it's an unsatisfying one.