Is it weird to text someone you met in person before a date

When you meet someone face-to-face, you've already done the hard part. She knows what you look like. She's heard your voice. She's made a judgment call that you're not a waste of her time. A text after that is not cold outreach. It's a continuation.

She's probably expecting you to text if you exchanged numbers or connected on social media. The absence of a text is more likely to register as disinterest than the presence of one. Still, she will notice if you text too soon (within an hour) or too late (after three days). The next day or the day after works well, when the conversation is still fresh but doesn't look frantic.

Your text needs to do two jobs. First, it reminds her of who you are and what you talked about. A specific detail from your conversation keeps it from feeling generic. Not your whole life story, just one thing that stuck. Second, it expresses interest without asking for immediate commitment. Mention getting coffee or drinks, but leave room for her to suggest something else or pick the time.

Don't ask a question that requires a long answer. Don't send multiple texts in a row. Don't compliment her appearance if you can mention something she said instead. Keep it short enough that she can reply quickly, and friendly enough that replying feels natural.

Text within 24 to 48 hours of meeting. Any sooner feels pushy. Any later and the moment fades. If she replies, match her energy and move toward concrete plans. Suggest two specific times or places, then wait for her response. Don't send another text while waiting.

If she doesn't reply within a day, don't follow up. If she takes three days to reply, that's a signal she's not prioritizing you. You can send one more message a week later if you want, but expecting a second chance after radio silence wastes your energy. If she replies but seems lukewarm, a single follow-up text is fine. After that, let it go.