Is it too pushy to ask someone out after two days of messaging

By day two, you have enough context to know if conversation flows. You've traded a few messages, maybe made each other laugh, hinted at what you like. That's enough to test if things work in person. Waiting longer does not make you more likely to hear yes. It does the opposite. The longer you text without meeting, the more she builds an idea of you in her head instead of experiencing who you actually are. She also starts to wonder why you haven't asked. That hesitation reads as low confidence or that you're not actually interested in meeting her.

The timing window closes fast. Text too long and the initial spark fades. The ask works when there's still momentum from the first messages, when she still has you in her head as someone new and potentially interesting.

Before you ask, read what you're seeing. Is she replying? How long are her messages? Is she asking you things back or just answering your questions. If she's matching your energy, coming back with her own questions, and replying in a reasonable timeframe, she's interested enough to meet. If she's giving one-word answers or taking eight hours to reply, asking her out might still work, but the odds are lower and she may not be in a headspace to say yes.

She's not signaling lack of interest because it's only been two days. Two days is not a long enough sample to know. What matters is the quality of the exchanges you've already had. If those are warm and mutual, ask. If you're not sure, ask anyway. The only thing that actually tells you if she wants to meet is asking.

The move is to suggest something specific, time it so she has a few days' notice, and give her a real out without making it awkward. Say something like 'Coffee on Saturday morning?' or 'There's a show Friday night I'm thinking of going to, want to come?' Not 'we should hang out sometime' and not 'what's your schedule like for the next three weeks.' Specific beats vague. A weekend day beats 'when are you free.' She can picture it and decide in seconds instead of having to do the work of figuring it out.

Send the ask on a day when you have a natural break in conversation, not in the middle of a thread. If she doesn't reply the same day, do not send a follow-up text. Wait until the next day. If she says she's busy but suggests another time, you're golden. If she says she's busy and does not suggest a time, she's probably not interested. Do not ask again. If she doesn't reply at all to the ask, wait two days and move on.