Is suggesting a video call before meeting too forward

When someone suggests meeting in person quickly, they're already past the stage of being suspicious of you. A video call before that point can actually seem like you're stalling or don't want to commit. But if there's a gap between now and your planned date, or if she lives far away, a quick call can read as practical.

Pay attention to the timeline. If she just suggested meeting and you're seeing each other in three days, pushing a video call first looks like cold feet. If the date is two weeks out and there's real time to fill, it becomes a way to keep momentum going, not a safety checkpoint.

The move is to frame a video call as solving a real problem between now and your date, not as a test of her truthfulness. Don't say 'I want to make sure you're real' or 'just so we can see if there's chemistry first.' Those land as doubtful.

Instead, treat it like the natural way to maintain connection during a gap. You're already interested. A call just keeps things from going cold. It also removes the pressure of a silent chat thread where you're both performing. The subtext should be 'I like talking to you and don't want to wait two weeks,' not 'I need proof you're legitimate.'

Don't suggest a video call three weeks in advance like it's a scheduling problem. That makes it feel like another obligation, another test to pass before the real date. Bring it up when you're actually close to meeting, ideally the day before or a few hours before you're supposed to hang out.

If she says no or goes quiet, don't follow up or ask why. A video call is nice to have, not a requirement. If she flakes on the actual date and you never called, that's useful information. If she ghosts after you suggest one, you dodged someone who wasn't serious anyway. Let her silence be your answer, then move on.