Is it bad to mention seeing them again at the end of a first date

At the end of a date, she's already decided whether she wants to see you again. She's not waiting for your signal to know. What she's looking for is whether you're direct about your interest or hiding behind pleasantries. If you're vague, she assumes you're hedging your bets or not sure. If you're specific about wanting to see her again and mention something concrete, she knows you meant it.

She's also clocking whether you seem like someone who follows through. Guys who bring it up casually at the end of a date but then disappear for a week are worse than guys who don't mention it at all. So the mention only works if your next move backs it up.

A good mention does two jobs. First, it replaces vagueness with something specific. Instead of "we should do this again," name something. A day, an activity, a place. Even "I want to take you out next weekend" is more real than "I'd love to see you again sometime." The specificity proves you actually thought about it.

Second, it has to sound like it came from you, not from a script. You're not asking her to plan something or putting the ball in her court. You're saying what you want. That confidence is what lands. Skip the "if you want to" or "would you be interested." Just say it like you mean it and you're open to her response.

The mention at the end of the date only matters if you back it up fast. Send a text the next morning or afternoon. Not immediately when you get home, which reads as desperate. But not three days later, which makes the whole end-of-date thing feel like you weren't serious.

If she doesn't respond to your follow-up within 24 to 48 hours, she's already answered. One soft follow-up after two days is acceptable. After that, let it go. If she was interested, the mention at the end of the date plus a prompt text would have gotten a response. Chasing it further just proves you weren't as confident as you seemed.