How to text someone to delete their dating app

There's a gap between what someone says and what they actually want. If they told you they like you but haven't brought up exclusivity or deleting apps after several weeks of regular contact, that gap is telling you something. They might be keeping their options open, unsure about commitment, or simply moving slower than you are.

A text asking them to delete the app will expose which one it is. That's the real point. You're not trying to trick them into commitment. You're asking a direct question so you know whether you're on the same page. Their answer, or their silence, tells you if you should keep going or move on.

Don't bury the ask in a longer text about your feelings or your future together. Don't ask multiple things at once. Don't frame it as something they're doing wrong. One clean ask: you like them, you want exclusivity, you want to know if they do too.

The move here is simplicity. State what you want without conditions, explanations, or justifications. They either say yes, say no, or go quiet. Any of those tells you something real. A vague or soft text won't. They'll just keep swiping and tell themselves it wasn't a real question.

Don't send this text at 11pm or when you're annoyed at them for something. Don't send it drunk. Don't send it after they've been slow to reply for a few days and you're spiraling. Send it when you actually feel good about them, when you're steady, when you've had time to decide this is something you want.

If they don't reply for a day or two, that's normal. Don't follow up. Don't resend it softer. Don't ask again in a different way. If after a week there's no reply and they're still active on the app, you have your answer. They're not interested in what you're asking for. At that point, you delete the app from your phone and move forward.