How to text someone without asking the same questions twice

Most repeated questions come from a short memory and a long pause. You get a detail, reply to something else, and by the time you're typing again you've lost what she said. Scroll up before you send anything. If you can't find her answer in the thread within ten seconds, you're about to ask something she already answered.

The other cause is that her answers are short. She says she likes hiking, and that's the whole reply. Most people read a short answer as a cue to switch topics, so they drop the detail and grab the nearest question off the shelf. A better read is that she gave you a small piece and is waiting to see if you do anything with it. Her short reply is usually fine. The problem is what you do next.

A reply that works here usually does one of these things. It comments on the specific detail she shared, so she knows you heard it. It connects that detail to something you have, like a story, an opinion, or a place you've been. Or it asks about the detail in a new direction she hasn't already covered, like what the hiking is like, not whether she hikes.

What matters is that the reply could only have been sent to her. If the same message would fit any woman who said she likes hiking, it's generic and she'll feel it. Pick the one thing she said that had some texture and respond to that. Ignore the rest of the thread for now.

If you've been trading questions and she goes quiet, don't rush to fill the gap with another question. A long gap after a thread that was going fine usually means she got busy, not that she lost interest. Give it a day, and when you write again, pick up something from earlier, something she said that you actually remember and want to know more about.

If she doesn't reply to that either, let it go. Two unanswered messages in a row is a clear answer. Sending a third that asks the same thing from a new angle doesn't change that, and it's the point where a repeated question turns into a repeated push.