How to text back when she's exhausted from a wedding

A wedding is physically and socially draining. She's been on her feet, navigating other people's emotions, wearing uncomfortable clothes, and performing small talk for hours. When she texts you this, she's not cooling off or pulling back. She's just reporting her state.

Read it as data, not subtext. Low energy now does not predict low interest later. She reached out to you even though she's wiped. That's worth noticing. The move is to make it easy for her to rest without feeling like she's neglecting you.

Your message has one job. Receive her update without turning it into work. This means no questions that require a thoughtful answer. No banter that needs her energy. No callbacks to inside jokes that demand she be sharp.

Instead, validate what she said, maybe add something warm or light that doesn't need a response. Then give her an off-ramp. A good reply is three to five sentences maximum. It lets her put her phone down and sleep without anxiety about disappointing you.

Send your reply tonight or within the next few hours. Don't make her wonder if you're mad about her being tired. But don't text her first thing in the morning either, or ask how she slept. That reads as you monitoring her recovery.

If she doesn't reply that night, assume she fell asleep and move on. Text her the next day or later with something unrelated to the wedding. By day three of silence, pull back. She's either busy or no longer interested, and you'll know by her patterns, not by her exhaustion.