Signs she's talking to someone else and what to do

If her replies used to come within an hour and now take six, that's a signal. If she used to send two or three sentences and now sends one, that's a signal. Look also at whether she's asking you things. When someone's interested, they ask about your day, your plans, what you're up to. When they're distracted by someone else, replies become responses instead of conversations. They answer your question but don't ask one back. They use shorter words and fewer emojis. These changes are not always obvious in a single message, but over three or four exchanges they become clear.

You're not trying to convince her you're worth her time. You're giving her a low-pressure moment to remember why she liked talking to you. A good reply might reference something specific she told you before, make a light joke about something only you two would get, or suggest something concrete and time-bound that doesn't sound like you're waiting around. The goal is to make her brain go 'oh right, I liked this person' instead of making her feel guilty or making yourself look desperate for her attention. The second thing a good reply does is accept the reality of her interest level. If she's slow, your reply should not be long. If she's vague, your reply should not pin her down.

Send a reply that fits the signals you're seeing. Then wait for her response. One full cycle is about 24 to 48 hours depending on how your texting usually works. If she comes back engaged, you're back on. If she takes another 12 hours or replies again in that thin way, that's when you know the shift is real. At that point, you either accept that this is what it is and text less, or you send one more message that is very short and does not ask for anything. Then you stop. Do not send three messages in a row. Do not show up asking why she's distant. Those moves lock in the outcome you're trying to avoid.