Tell him you want more than casual texting

If someone is just making small talk about the weather or their week with no follow-up, no questions about you, and no mention of meeting up, they're either not that interested or they like the attention without the commitment. Interested people move toward something. They ask real questions. They make plans or at least reference the future. Casual texting that stays stuck in "hey how are you" territory usually means he's keeping his options open and you're one of several low-effort interactions he's managing. You can see this pattern in the rhythm too. Long delays between messages, one-word replies, conversations that start and stop instead of building.

Your message needs to do two things in order. First, tell him plainly that you're not looking for ongoing casual texting. You can say you'd like to have real conversations or meet up soon, but the point is you need to name the thing that's not working. Second, you have to make it easy for him to respond by actually doing that thing. If you just complain about the texting dynamic, he'll either apologize and disappear, or he'll say "yeah let's hang" and then keep texting casually anyway. Instead, propose a concrete next step. That could be a call, a specific date suggestion, or setting a time limit on when you want to move forward. The decision point is whether he's willing to actually do it or not.

Don't send this at night or when you're annoyed. Send it when you're clear and calm, during normal daytime hours when he's likely to read it properly. Once you send it, wait two full days before you assume he's ghosting. Life happens. He might be busy. But after 48 hours with no response to something this direct, his silence is an answer. At that point, you don't send a follow-up message. You move on. If he circles back later with an apology and wants to actually do something, you can decide then. You've stated what you need and you're not going to chase him for it.