Tell him his date behavior embarrassed you without pushing him away

This message isn't vague anxiety about the date going sideways. You saw him do something concrete. He interrupted you repeatedly. He was short with the server. He made a joke at someone's expense. He spent the whole time on his phone. Whatever it was, he actually did it, and you're not imagining it.

When you text about it, this is your advantage. You're not asking him to guess what bothered you or fishing for reassurance. You already know what happened. The message works because you're stating fact, not emotion. That makes it harder for him to dismiss or turn it around on you.

Your message has two jobs. First, tell him the exact behavior you saw. Not "you were rude" but "you were dismissive to the waiter" or "you didn't let me finish my story once." Second, say one sentence about why it mattered. That shows you're not being petty. Maybe it embarrassed you. Maybe it showed you something about how he treats people. Maybe it made you feel unheard.

Then send the message and wait. Do not add another text explaining yourself, softening it, or checking if he's mad. Do not write "I'm not trying to start drama" or "I still like you though." Those lines undo what you just said and tell him you don't actually stand behind it. Let the message sit as it is.

If he responds within a few hours, even defensively, that's him engaging. You can have the real conversation. If he leaves you on read for a full day or longer, that tells you something about whether he's willing to hear you. Some people need time to process. Some people just aren't going to. After 24 hours of silence, you have your answer about whether this is someone worth texting again.

Don't send a follow-up message asking if he got it or saying you're sorry for bringing it up. Don't keep dating him while waiting to see if he'll acknowledge it. You said your piece. Either he respects you enough to respond, or he doesn't.