How to tell her you want to delete your dating app profile

When you tell her you're deleting the app, she's reading it as a statement about where you stand and what you want. If things have been good, she's probably already thought about whether she wants to do the same. The fact that you're saying it now tells her you're ready to commit your attention to just her.

What matters is she knows this isn't a trap or a test. You're not saying 'if you don't delete yours, we're done.' You're saying 'I'm done looking.' Some people will delete theirs right after you do. Some will take longer. Some will tell you she's still talking to others and that's her right. Any of these tells you something real about where she is.

The move is to say you're deleting the app because you're interested in just her, then stop. Don't ask if she's going to do the same. Don't say 'what about you?' Don't wait for her permission. You're informing her of a decision you've already made about yourself, not asking for agreement.

Then actually delete it. Or at least mean it when you say you will. If you delete it and reinstall it three weeks later because things got slow, you've just shown her you weren't serious. The message only works if you back it up with action.

Bring this up when you've already spent real time together in person, had actual conversations, and both shown up consistently. A few good text exchanges isn't enough. A week or two of back-and-forth with no in-person meetup isn't enough. You need enough data to know she's actually interested, not just responsive.

After you tell her, don't follow up immediately asking if she's going to delete hers. Leave it alone for at least a couple days. If things keep going well and she's interested, she'll either delete it on her own or bring it up herself. If she doesn't mention it in the next week or two and things otherwise feel good, you can gently ask where her head is at. If she ghosts or gets weird after you say it, that's information too.