Tell her you want to date her, not message forever

If she's been messaging you consistently but dodging or delaying any actual meetup, that's information. It means either she's not interested in dating you specifically, or she prefers the validation of texting without the vulnerability of meeting. Both of those are things you need to know.

She might also be legitimately busy or cautious. But weeks of texts with zero movement toward a plan is different from being busy. A person who wants to see you makes space, even just for coffee. Pay attention to whether she's answering vaguely when you hint at plans, changing the subject back to chat, or giving reasons why now isn't good but not suggesting when would be.

Your job is to make the choice clear and remove the ambiguity she might be hiding behind. State that you want to date her and that means meeting soon. Not someday. Not vaguely. Soon. This sounds aggressive but it's actually kind because it stops wasting both your time.

Second, propose something specific. A day, a place, a time that works for you. Don't ask when she's free and open it up for negotiation right away. Give her something concrete to say yes or no to. She can counter-offer if she needs to, but she has to engage with a real plan instead of staying in text mode.

Send this during the day when she's likely to see it quickly. Then wait three to five days. If she doesn't respond or gives you a hard no, that's your answer. Don't send a follow-up text. Don't ask again softer. Don't wait two weeks hoping she'll circle back.

If she says yes, you have a date. If she says maybe or gives vague reasons, that's a no with extra steps. Move on. You're looking for someone who wants to date you, not someone you have to convince. After she declines or ghosts, give it real time before messaging her about anything else.