How to tell her you need her to text back faster

If she's replying within a few hours during her waking day, that's normal. If she waits 12 to 24 hours to reply to direct questions, that's a pattern worth noticing. Look at when she texts back. Does she reply faster when you're not asking something? Does she only text late at night or early morning? Is the delay getting longer or shorter over time?

Sometimes slow replies mean she is busy or her job doesn't let her use her phone. Sometimes it means low interest. Sometimes she just doesn't text much with anyone. Don't assume. The diagnosis changes everything about what you say next.

Good replies skip the complaint. Instead, they make a small request that assumes she can actually do it. You're saying 'I'd like us to text more during the day' not 'why do you take so long to reply.' You might mention that you enjoy talking to her and want to build momentum before a date. You might ask if she prefers phone calls or in-person plans over texting.

The move is to sound like you're solving a compatibility thing together, not calling her out. She needs to feel like you're not mad, just clear about what you need to keep interest alive.

This is too easy to misread in writing. Bring it up when you're together or on the phone so she can hear your tone. If you have to text it, keep it short and light, then move to a call if she doesn't respond the way you hoped.

Don't send this message if she's already given you a reason for being slow (traveling, new job, family stuff). Wait for things to settle. If after two weeks her pace hasn't changed, then it's worth a conversation.