How to sound confident over text when she has been burned by guys on apps before

Read the line about being burned as a description of her filter. She has been let down often enough that she checks new men for the same patterns: vague plans, slow replies, enthusiasm that disappears after the first meeting. When she mentions it, she is often telling you where she will be watching. She may not even expect you to answer it directly.

So look for what she is asking you to demonstrate. Is it reliability? Clarity about what you want? Lightness about the whole thing? The clue is usually in what comes right after the sentence, in the tone around it, and in whether she ends with a question or a statement. A statement with no question means she is setting a boundary and waiting. A question means she is curious whether you can hold a real conversation without getting weird about it.

The reply you want does not treat her past as the topic. It nods to the experience in one short clause, then turns to something concrete that you are interested in, either about her or about a plan. The acknowledgement should be plain, the sort of thing you would say about any shared frustration, and it should not contain an apology on behalf of other men or a promise about yourself.

What the reply should leave out is any question about the bad experiences. Those questions feel like interest to you, but she will often hear them as being asked to justify herself. Let her bring up details if she wants to. If she does, listen and respond to the feeling in what she says, then return to the present. The move you are making is to show that you can hear hard things without needing them to become the whole conversation.

Timing carries a lot of weight with someone who has been let down. Answer within a reasonable window of her message, something like the same part of the day, without matching her pace exactly if she is slow. A reply that arrives in a steady rhythm signals that you are not scrambling and not holding back to play it cool.

If you do not hear back after a thoughtful message, wait a few days before following up, and make the follow-up lighter than the first one, with a reference to something she said so it does not feel like a fresh pitch. If she stays quiet after that, let it go. Continuing to message after two unanswered attempts reads as needing the reply more than she needs to give it, which is the exact thing she is watching for. Stop there, and do not make it a dramatic exit.