How to respond when she says she isn't much of a texter

She just told you how she likes to communicate. That's useful, even if it's a little deflating. Look at what she offered alongside it. Did she say she'd rather talk in person, or call, or just meet? That tells you the door is open, just through a different channel. If she said nothing about meeting, the comment is still a preference, but it sits closer to a question you need to ask directly.

Think about where the comment appeared. If it came right after you asked a simple question, she may have felt the pace was getting heavy and wanted to set expectations early. If it came at the end of a long, lively exchange, she may just be signalling that she's done for the day. Either way, the message is about her bandwidth. Taking it personally will only make your next reply tighter and less natural.

Respond to the substance of what she said. Acknowledge the preference in a sentence, without grovelling or making a joke that puts it on her. Then move to a concrete next step that doesn't depend on constant messaging. Usually that means a question that's easy to answer in one line, or a suggestion to talk properly at a set time.

Keep the ask proportionate to how far along you are. After one exchange, a short question about the thing she mentioned is enough. After a few days, suggesting a call or a meet is reasonable. Don't stack two asks in one message, because that makes it feel like a request she has to manage. One clear, low-cost thing is what gets a reply.

If she's a light texter, a day or two between messages is normal, not a sign something's wrong. Match that rhythm rather than setting your own. If you send something and she replies warmly the next day, you can keep the thread going at the same pace. If she answers in a single word or doesn't reply, let it sit.

If you get no answer, give it at least three or four days before any follow-up, and keep the follow-up brief and light, like a question about something she said earlier. If nothing comes back after that, stop. Silence from someone who just told you she doesn't text much is often her staying in her comfort zone. It can also mean she's not interested, and more messages will only make that decision harder for her. Stopping cleanly is more respectful and more useful to you than another nudge.