How to reply when she says she doesn't want to meet until summer

Read the message for what it actually says. She named a season, not a rejection. Someone who never wants to meet you would usually just stop replying, or say she isn't interested. Naming summer means she has a sense of when she'd be ready, and she's telling you so you can decide whether to keep talking. The word "chatting" in a message like that is doing work too. She's saying the conversation is fine and the meeting is what's off the table.

Check whether she gave a reason. Work, a recent breakup, moving, or wanting to focus on something else are all common, and each one calls for a different kind of patience. If the reason is about her own situation, she's probably not judging you. If she added a hedge like "maybe, I'm not sure", she's left some room, and you can respect that room without asking her to fill it.

Take the boundary at face value first. Say you hear her and you're fine with it. Keep it short and plain enough that she believes you. A reply that treats the summer date as normal, rather than as a problem to solve, will land better than one that tries to rescue the plan.

Then keep the conversation alive without making it about meeting. Ask about something she mentioned, or go back to a thread you were already on. Let the chat carry its own weight. If the only subject left is when you two will finally meet, every exchange will feel like waiting, and she'll feel that pressure.

And don't signal that you need the answer to change. Skip the "maybe" and the "what would make you change your mind" questions. Those turn her boundary into a negotiation. You want her to feel she can keep the boundary and still enjoy talking to you.

Timing matters more than people expect. Replying within the hour can read as eager, and replying two days later can read as hurt or indifferent. Aim for a normal gap that matches how fast the two of you have been texting. If things have been quick and easy, a reply a few hours later is fine. If it's been slower, match that.

If she doesn't respond to your reply, leave it. One message after her boundary is enough. A follow-up asking whether she's still interested tells her you're anxious, and it often ends the thread. Let it sit. If she comes back in a week, pick it up where it was without mentioning the gap.

You can stop when the conversation has clearly gone dead on her side, meaning she replies with less each time or drops the thread. At that point the summer answer was the answer. Stopping cleanly, without a passive-aggressive last message, is the most useful thing you can do.