How to respond when he sends a generic message to multiple people
When he copies and pastes the same opener to everyone, decide fast: engage with something specific, or skip him entirely.
A generic message signals low effort. He either messages dozens of people at once or he's too lazy to read your profile. Either way, the message tells you something real about how he approaches dating.
You have two moves here. One is to skip it entirely. The other is to respond in a way that forces him to actually pay attention to who you are. A good reply makes it harder for him to keep running the same script. It plants a flag that says 'if you want this conversation, you need to show up differently.'
The goal is not to make him fall for you despite his laziness. It's to either get a real response or confirm he's not worth your time. Either way, you learn something fast.
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What a copy paste opener actually tells you
Generic messages are a filter, not a bug. They work on some people, so he keeps using them. The message itself is not the problem. The problem is that he sent the same thing to five other matches today.
When you get 'hey how's your week,' he's either testing volume or he doesn't read profiles. Both are choices. A guy who wants to talk to you specifically reads at least one line about who you are and mentions it. He doesn't have to write a novel. He just has to prove he looked.
Don't convince yourself the message was an exception or that he's just tired. If he matched with you and couldn't spend 30 seconds on your profile, that's the bar he's set.
Make him choose between real conversation and moving on
Your reply should do one thing: make the next message harder for him if he's running a script. This means responding to something real about yourself or asking a specific question about him that doesn't have a generic answer.
If your profile mentions you work in design or you love hiking or you're skeptical about dating apps, bring that into the conversation. Reference something from his profile too, but only if it's actually there. Don't pretend you saw depth that isn't there.
The goal is to shift the conversation to a place where his copy-paste message no longer fits. Now he has to think. He'll either do it or he'll move to the next match. Both outcomes tell you what you need to know.
Respond the same day, then step back
Send your reply within a few hours if you're interested. Don't delay because you're playing it cool. That just makes the conversation slower. A fast reply shows you saw the message and decided it was worth your time.
But here's the flip side. After you respond with something real, don't chase. Wait for his reply. If it's still generic or if he doesn't respond at all, that's your answer. A guy who got a real response but keeps sending scripts is telling you he doesn't care enough to match you. One non-response after you gave him an opening means he moved on to someone else. Don't send a second message.
If he does reply and actually engages with what you said, the conversation is real now. Take it forward.
Why these replies fail
“Hey! It's been good, pretty busy with work. How about you?”
You matched his generic energy exactly, so he has no reason to change his approach next time.
“Lol so you send this to everyone? I can tell when someone's not reading my profile”
Calling him out puts him on defense and turns it into an argument instead of a conversation.
“I'm doing well! I'd love to hear what you think of this book I'm reading, it's about the intersection of art and technology...”
You're doing all the work of keeping the conversation interesting while he puts in zero effort, which trains him that laziness pays off.
Common mistakes
- Matching his energy and being just as generic back, which teaches him the script worked
- Calling out the laziness directly, which puts him on defense instead of making a choice
- Ignoring it but then responding enthusiastically to his second message, which rewards him for trying again
- Crafting a long, clever reply hoping it will impress him enough to change his behavior
- Waiting days to respond because you're unsure, which reads as disinterest and kills momentum
Questions people ask
- Is a generic message always a dealbreaker?
- Not always, but it's a signal. Some people just text that way. The question is whether he shifts gears when you give him something real to work with. If his second and third messages are still lazy, then yes, it's a dealbreaker.
- Should I just unmatch without replying?
- If you're not interested, yes. But if part of you is curious whether he's worth talking to, a real reply gives you the answer in one exchange instead of wondering. You get to see if he's actually lazy or just opening weak.
- What if he responds to my reply but still doesn't ask me a question?
- He's not interested in having a real conversation. He's responding out of politeness or he's seeing if you'll carry the whole thing. This is when to stop replying. You've given him the opening.
- How long should I wait before deciding he's not responding?
- Three to four days is fair. Life gets busy and messages get buried. After that, assume he's not coming back. Don't send a follow up message. Move to someone who showed up in the first place.
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