How to respond when he asks a generic question to multiple matches
He's asking the same basic question to lots of people. Here's how to stand out and move past the copy-paste opener.
When someone opens with a generic question like 'how was your weekend' or 'what do you do for fun', there's a good chance he's sent the same thing to several other matches. That's not a red flag about his character. It's just how early texting works for a lot of guys. The question is still an opening, though, and you can still use it.
A good reply does two things at once. It answers his question straight, so he's not waiting for a response. Then it adds something that makes continuing the conversation with you more interesting than continuing it with anyone else. That doesn't mean being funny or performing. It means giving him a real reason to text back.
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The generic opener is a sorting mechanism, not a real conversation
When he sends the same question to five people, he's not trying to be slick. He's trying to start five conversations at once and see which ones go somewhere. You're not being disrespected. You're being triaged. The people who reply thoughtfully and quickly usually get better follow-ups than the people who ignore the message or send back one word.
The generic question is his way of saying, 'I'm open to talking to you, but I need you to show me it's worth my time.' Once you answer, the obligation switches. If he doesn't follow up with something better, that's on him. But your job in the first reply is to make it easy for him to do that.
Answer directly, then give him one real detail to work with
Reply to what he actually asked. Don't dodge it or skip it to be clever. Then add one concrete detail from your answer that he can actually respond to. If he asked about your weekend, don't just say 'it was good'. Say what you did, where you went, or what you noticed. Something he can ask you about next.
You're not trying to seem mysterious or make him chase you. You're giving him the next move. The detail should be specific enough that it would sound weird for him to ask follow-ups about it to someone else. If everyone says 'I went hiking', it's generic. If you say 'I went to that weird trail near the reservoir where someone always paints rocks', he has something to actually ask about.
Send it today, assume nothing if he doesn't reply in 24 hours
Reply while the conversation is still fresh, ideally within a few hours. Don't wait to seem uninterested. Don't spend an hour crafting something perfect. A thoughtful, honest reply sent quickly beats a polished reply sent three days later.
If he doesn't reply within a day, drop it. He may have moved on to other matches, got busy, or decided to keep things slower. None of that reflects on your reply. Send one follow-up message only if another week passes and you think of something worth saying. After that, accept that this one didn't convert and stay available for people who do engage.
Why these replies fail
“It was good lol”
No detail to hook him on, so he has to work too hard to keep the conversation going and will probably move to someone else instead.
“Haha wow we're really starting with this one? 😂”
It calls out the generic opener and makes him defensive instead of encouraging him to ask something real next time.
“It was nice! What about yours? How's your week going so far?”
Three questions back at him means you didn't really answer his question, and now the texting becomes a stiff interview where someone always has to go first.
Common mistakes
- Answering so briefly (one word, one sentence) that there's nothing to reply to
- Pointing out that the question is generic or calling him out for sending it to others
- Over-explaining or over-performing to stand out, which reads as trying too hard
- Asking him a question back without answering his first, creating awkward back-and-forth setup
- Taking forever to reply because you're overthinking what will stand out
Questions people ask
- Should I call out that he's using a generic opener?
- No. Pointing it out feels like criticism and doesn't move the conversation forward. He probably knows it's generic. Just answer the question and move on. If he's interested, he'll ask something better next time.
- What if I give a detailed answer and he still doesn't reply?
- It doesn't mean your answer was bad. Generic openers get generic conversion rates. Some guys are just messaging a lot of people at low effort and won't follow up with anyone. That's about his approach, not your reply.
- Is it better to ask him a question back or just answer his question?
- Answer his question and provide a detail he can ask about. Don't automatically flip it back at him with a new question. Let him decide what he wants to know next. That shows you're responding to what he said, not just doing the tennis volley thing.
- How long should my reply be?
- Two or three sentences at most. Answer the question in one sentence, add a detail in another. Anything longer reads like you're trying to earn interest. Short, honest replies convert better than long ones here.
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