How to reply when she says she thinks we talk too much on here
She says you two talk too much on the app. Here's how to read that and reply without sounding hurt, clingy, or pushy.
When a woman says you talk too much on here, she is usually telling you something about the pace and the channel, not rejecting you. Most of the time it means the back and forth has run long without anything real happening, or that she feels like she is being asked to keep a conversation alive every day. It can also mean she is tired of the app itself and wants to move somewhere else, or that she has been getting a lot of messages and is pulling back from everyone a bit.
What a good reply does is take the comment at face value, own your part of the pace without groveling, and give her an easy next step. You want her to feel she can say what she thinks without you getting weird about it. You also want to show that you can read the room, which is attractive in itself.
Do not treat it as a test to argue your way out of. If you defend how much you text, you confirm that the pace is the problem.
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Try for freeThe comment is about the pace, not about you
Read the words she used. "Too much on here" points at the app, not at you as a person. She is saying the channel has become the whole relationship and the conversation has stopped moving. A lot of women say this after a stretch of good chat where nothing has been planned, so the back and forth feels like it has no destination. If her message also mentions feeling like she knows you already, she is telling you the questions have run out and the next stage is missing.
Check her profile and your last few exchanges. If she has been replying quickly and warmly, the comment is likely a nudge toward meeting, not a sign of boredom. If her replies have been getting shorter or she has been slow for a day or two, take that as the stronger signal and move toward a plan with less pressure on it.
Answer the comment before you move on
She raised something real, so the reply has to acknowledge it in its own right. If you pivot straight into a new topic, she will feel you skipped past her. Say something that agrees the pace has been high and that you hear her. Keep the wording light and specific to what she said. Then your message can carry the rest of the conversation.
The content of what you say next matters less than whether it shows you took her point seriously. A brief acknowledgment, a little self-aware humor if it fits your voice, and then a clear move forward will do more than any clever line.
Reply in daylight, not at 2am
Send your reply within a few hours if you can, during the part of the day when she is likely awake and free. A reply at 2am, or a long gap followed by a wall of text, makes the comment feel bigger than it was. Keep the message short, one or two sentences, so it matches the casual tone she set.
If you get no answer, do not send three follow-ups in a row. One gentle message later in the same day or the next day is enough. If she still goes quiet, let the thread rest. If she answers with a short, friendly reply that does not invite more chat, take it as a sign to stop texting and stop pushing for a plan. Stop when her replies are polite but closed, rather than trying to win the thread back.
Why these replies fail
“Haha, I mean we only talk every day, that's not too much? Plenty of people text all day.”
It argues with her feeling and tells her the pace is normal, which makes her feel unheard.
“Oh no, sorry, I didn't mean to be annoying. I'll back off completely if you want, I totally get it.”
The apology is so heavy that it makes her feel responsible for your reaction and signals you would rather disappear than talk.
“Ok noted. So anyway, what's your favorite pizza topping? I've been thinking about it all day.”
It skips her comment entirely, so she learns you did not hear her and the conversation keeps the same pace she just asked you to change.
Common mistakes
- Arguing that the amount of texting is fine, which tells her you are not listening
- Apologizing at length, which makes the comment feel heavier than she meant it
- Ignoring the comment and sending a fresh question as if nothing was said
- Going quiet for days to prove a point, which reads as sulking
- Suggesting a date in the same message that says you talk too much, which can feel like a sales pitch
Questions people ask
- Does it mean she is not interested?
- Not necessarily. It usually means the chat has run long without a plan and she wants more real-world momentum or a change of channel. It becomes a bad sign only if her replies are getting slower and shorter alongside the comment. Look at her overall engagement before deciding what it means.
- Should I suggest meeting in the same message?
- It depends on how it lands. If you suggest a specific plan right after she said you talk too much, it can read as pushing. A better approach is to acknowledge her comment first, then propose a low-pressure plan in your next message once she has responded to the acknowledgment.
- How long should I wait before texting again?
- If she replied to your acknowledgment, keep the thread going at a calmer pace and let her set the rhythm for a day or two. If she has not replied, wait until the next day and send one short, friendly message. Do not follow up more than once without a response, because repeated texts will make the pace problem worse.
- What if she just stops replying after this?
- Treat silence after this comment as her answer about the pace. Send one brief, warm message at most, then let it end. Pushing harder after she has signaled she wants less will damage any chance of a friendly exchange later, and it does not change her mind.
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