How to move to text when she says she's been messaging a few other people too

A woman who volunteers that she is talking to other people is often setting the terms before anything gets heavier. Look at how she said it. If it came with a joke and a question back to you, she is opening a door and checking whether you'll walk through it. If it came as a flat statement with no question, she may be telling you where she stands and waiting to see what you do with it. Either way she has not ended anything. Matches on dating apps are normal and frequently overlap, and many people mention it early because they would rather be upfront than let it surface later.

What matters more is how many messages you have exchanged and how specific the conversation has been. If you've only traded a few lines, her disclosure is mostly a reminder that you are one option among several at this stage, and your job is to make the next message the most interesting one she gets today. If the conversation has been warm and she still tells you this, she is probably just being fair and expects you to be fair back.

The reply should acknowledge what she said in one line, then return to something specific between the two of you. Each kind of reply does a different job. A plain acknowledgment says you heard her and you're not alarmed, and it is recognizable by being short and free of questions about her other contacts. A forward move suggests a concrete next thing, like a plan, a question about something she mentioned, or a suggestion to talk on the phone, and you can tell a draft is doing this when it names a thing you both could actually do. A light, warm callback references something she said earlier, which reminds her you were paying attention. Leave out anything that asks her to rank you, anything about what the other people are like, and any statement about how you feel about her seeing others.

When you draft, check that the message gives her something to respond to that is about the two of you, not about the situation. If it could have been sent to any woman who mentioned other matches, rewrite it around a detail from your own conversation.

Send your reply at a normal hour, not late at night when it reads as needy or like you were stewing. Give it a few hours, or the next day if she's been slow anyway, before you follow up. Following up within the hour makes it look like you were waiting on her answer. If she responds warmly, match her energy and move toward a plan within the next message or two. If she replies with something short or drops the thread, let that be the answer for now and don't send a second message explaining yourself.

If you get no reply, one follow-up a day or two later is fine if it's light and not about her other matches. After that, stop. Continuing to message after silence turns a relaxed situation into an awkward one. If she comes back weeks later, pick up where you left off without mentioning the gap.