How to reply when he says he's talking to multiple people
He wants to keep things open. Here's how to respond without closing doors or looking desperate.
He's told you straight that he's seeing other people and isn't ready to be exclusive. This is a moment where your reply either sets a boundary or signals you're fine being an option. Most people either panic and overcommit, or go cold and pretend not to care.
A good reply does two things at once. It shows you heard what he said without drama, and it plants a quiet flag about what you're actually looking for. You're not rejecting him or accepting scraps. You're staying in, but on your own terms.
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Try for freeWhat 'open' actually means from him right now
He's not saying he might feel different later. He's saying he doesn't want to commit now and he's keeping his options active. This is clear information, not a puzzle. He's telling you the conditions before you invest more.
Some guys say this because they're unsure. Some say it because they like the freedom. The reason doesn't matter as much as what you do with the honesty. Treating it like he secretly wants commitment is how you end up six months in, wondering why nothing progressed.
Acknowledge it and reset the frame
Your reply needs to show you heard him without pretending to be okay with less than you want. The move is to match his directness. Say something that confirms you understand the situation, then calmly state what you need. You're not negotiating. You're syncing up on what's real.
If you're fine with casual and multiple people, say that. If you're not, say that too. Either way, make it clear you're not operating under false hope. This keeps you from resenting him later or chasing harder to prove yourself.
Send it quickly, then pull back the frequency
Reply within a few hours so you're not overthinking it. A delayed response makes it look like you're hurt or strategizing. You're not. Then actually slow down your texting. This is the part most people get wrong. They say 'cool' and then text him twice a day.
If he wants to keep it open, he doesn't get daily access to you. You're seeing other people too, or you're not available whenever he reaches out. Match the temperature he set. If he texts once a week, you're not the person replying in minutes. Let him feel the space his own words created.
Why these replies fail
“That's totally fine with me! I'm happy just spending time with you whenever works. No pressure at all.”
You just signaled that you're available on demand and have no standards for your own time.
“Ok but just so you know, I'm looking for something real eventually, so if that's not you I need to know”
You're pushing for commitment right after he said he wasn't ready, which makes you look needy and gives him an easy out.
“[no reply, then a text three days later asking what he's doing this weekend]”
Disappearing then reaching out casually reads as playing games, not respecting his honesty.
Common mistakes
- Saying 'that's fine' and then texting him daily like nothing changed
- Launching into what you want long term when he's just stated his short term reality
- Going silent to punish him or seem unbothered
- Asking questions like 'what does this mean for us' when he already answered
- Agreeing but then bringing it up again in two weeks
Questions people ask
- Does this mean he's not interested in me?
- Not necessarily. It means he's not ready to narrow his options yet. Interest and commitment readiness are different things. The question is whether you want to wait and see, or whether you need something defined now. Pick what matters to you, then act on it.
- Should I tell him I'm also talking to other people?
- Only if it's true. If you're not actually seeing other people, don't make it up to seem unbothered. Honesty is always better. If you are, mentioning it casually in your reply shows parity and takes pressure off the dynamic.
- How long should I wait to see if he commits?
- Set a personal timeline before you ask him anything else about it. Two months, three months, whatever feels reasonable to you. If nothing shifts by then, you have your answer. Waiting indefinitely while he figures it out is choosing that for him.
- What if he gets defensive when I respond?
- That's information. A guy who told you he's keeping it open shouldn't get upset when you set a boundary or keep your own options open. Defensiveness usually means he wanted you to accept the deal without conditions.
What people say after using WingAI
“She went cold mid-week and I had no idea what to say. The reply I sent felt natural and she picked the chat back up.”
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“I overthink every text. Having three options and picking the one that sounds like me cut that spiral short.”
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