How to message a professional dance choreographer match
Message a dance choreographer match without generic flattery. Show you understand her world and spark real conversation.
Dance choreographers live in a specific world: creative vision, bodies, music, collaboration, and the constant grind of making movement mean something. They're used to surface-level "that's so cool" messages that don't land because they don't touch what actually matters to her work.
A good reply acknowledges that choreography is real labor, not just a fun hobby. It asks something that shows you're curious about how she thinks or what drives her choices, not just what she does. It treats her expertise the way you'd treat someone who works in any field that demands both skill and taste.
The goal is to move past admiration into actual conversation. That means picking up on something specific from her profile or what she's said, then asking or commenting in a way that invites her to talk about the work itself.
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Her profile probably mentions choreography because it's central to her life, not her entire identity. The default response is 'wow that's amazing,' which tells her nothing you actually know about her or what the job involves.
What matters is whether you're asking about the work itself. Who does she choreograph for, what style, what's the hardest part of the process, does she dance too, what's she working on now. These are real questions. They show you see choreography as something with depth and decision-making, not just movement set to music. When she answers, you'll actually have ground to build on instead of stalling in admiration.
Ask about process or creative choices, not impressions
Your reply should do two things. First, pick something specific from her profile or message that points to how she works or thinks. Don't just acknowledge choreography exists. Second, ask a question that requires her to explain a choice or decision, not just confirm that the job is cool.
Instead of asking how long she's been doing it, ask what drew her to a particular style or how she approaches a project. Instead of 'that must be fun,' ask what the hardest part of setting choreography actually is. These moves let her talk like a professional instead of like someone doing a hobby on the side.
Send when you've read her profile, wait a full day
Don't message right after matching if you're just going off 'choreographer' in her bio. Spend a few hours actually looking at what she's written, whether she's linked to work, what else shows up. Then send when you have something real to work with. Choreographers get a lot of surface messages, so starting from a place of having actually paid attention matters.
Wait at least a full day for a reply. Her schedule might be rehearsals or teaching all day. If she doesn't reply after three days, send one more message with a slightly different angle, then move on. Two unanswered messages is the signal to stop.
Why these replies fail
“omg choreography is so cool! i love dancing too, maybe you could teach me sometime”
Makes it about you and what you want from her instead of showing interest in her actual work
“you must be so graceful and talented! what's your favorite type of dance?”
Leads with appearance-adjacent flattery and asks a question so broad it doesn't show you know anything about choreography as a profession
“that's such a unique job! how many years have you been doing it?”
Treats choreography like an unusual hobby instead of a real skill set, and the question doesn't open actual conversation
Common mistakes
- Treating choreography as a cute hobby instead of a demanding creative profession
- Asking vague questions like 'what's it like' without showing you understand the field
- Leading with compliments about her appearance or how 'graceful' dancers are
- Making it about you ('I've always wanted to dance') instead of about her work
- Using phrases like 'so artistic' or 'so talented' that flatten the complexity of what she does
Questions people ask
- Should I mention that I don't know much about choreography?
- No. Instead ask something that lets her explain what interests you. 'How do you start with a blank slate' or 'what's the first decision you make' works better than admitting ignorance. You can learn from her answer without announcing you need teaching.
- Is it okay to ask if she performs as well as choreographs?
- Yes, if you haven't found that answer in her profile already. Many choreographers dance, some don't. It's a real question that shows you understand the roles are separate. Just make sure it's something you don't already know.
- What if I actually do dance or have a dance background?
- Mention it naturally if it comes up, but don't lead with it. The conversation should stay on her work and perspective first. Your experience becomes relevant once she's shared something and you're trading understanding, not comparing resumes.
- Should I ask to see her choreography before replying?
- Only if she's linked to it in her profile. If she has, watching or reading about a project gives you real material to reference. If she hasn't linked anything, don't ask her to perform or share work in your first message.
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