How to bring up that he only wants to hang at his place

Guys who only want to hang at their place fall into a few categories. Some are broke and embarrassed. Some are still living a bachelor life and don't want a girlfriend interfering with that freedom. Some are avoiding the work of being seen together. Some have another person in the picture and need plausible deniability.

The pattern itself doesn't tell you which one he is. But it does tell you something. He hasn't decided you're worth the effort yet. A man who's into you finds reasons to be around you, even if it's cheaper to stay home. He takes you to get coffee. He meets you halfway. He suggests things. The fact that every suggestion ends at his apartment means you're not at the top of his priority list.

Your job is to name the pattern and then stop. Don't soften it too much or he'll pretend he didn't notice. Don't attack him or he'll get defensive. Just state what you see. Something like: "I've realized we always end up at your place. I'd like to actually go out with you."

Then wait. His response tells you everything. If he makes an excuse but then suggests a real date, he heard you. If he deflects, ignores it, or suggests his place again, that's your answer too. You're not trying to convince him. You're trying to see if he's willing to meet you halfway.

Bring it up after it's happened three or four times, not after ten. The longer you wait, the more it feels like you're finally complaining instead of just pointing something out. Send the message when it's still early enough that changing course is easy for him.

If he doesn't respond or doesn't address it, don't follow up immediately. Give him two or three days. If he comes back with a real date offer, go. If he suggests his place again or goes quiet, that's your signal to slow down or move on. You're not waiting for him to eventually become the guy who takes you out. You're seeing if he's already that guy.