Know when to stop texting before the first date

Look at the actual pattern of her texts, not just whether she's replying. Early on, someone interested sends messages that have stakes. She asks you things. She volunteers information. She uses words, not just emojis. When that changes, something has shifted.

You might notice her responses shrink. "That's cool" instead of "That's cool, I love that place. I went there last summer and..." She takes 4 hours to reply when she used to take 20 minutes. She doesn't respond to your question at all and instead drops a random observation. These aren't fluke days. They're a pattern over 2 to 3 exchanges. That pattern means she's mentally checked out even if she hasn't explicitly said so.

Do not send another message meant to keep the conversation going. Instead, propose something specific enough to accept or reject. Pick a real date, a real time, a real place. Not 'we should grab coffee sometime.' Something like Saturday at 10am at the coffee place on Fifth.

This does two things. It gives her an actual choice to make instead of just another moment to half-engage. And it tells you what's really going on. If she says yes or suggests a different day, she's still in. If she doesn't respond, says she's busy with no alternative, or gives you a vague maybe, you have your answer.

Send one message that proposes the date. Then wait. Do not send a follow-up text. Do not send a casual 'hey' to keep things warm. Do not text her something funny to remind her you exist. If she's interested, a real date proposal will get a response within 2 to 3 days.

If 3 days pass and she hasn't answered, or if she said no and offered nothing else, that's your signal to stop. Block her number or mute the conversation if you need to. Do not text her again. Sending more will only push her further away and waste your own time. The person who wants to see you will make room for you.