Tell if they like you or just being polite on dating apps

A polite person will respond to what you said. They might even compliment you. But they won't ask you anything that requires a real answer. They'll say something like "that sounds fun" and leave it there. Or they'll ask something so general it could apply to anyone.

Someone actually interested asks about your specific thing. Not "what's your favorite outdoor activity" but something that builds on what you already told them. They're creating a reason to keep talking to you in particular. They remember details and circle back. They're also quicker to suggest meeting, because that's the actual goal.

Your reply needs to contain something specific enough that they can't give you a generic answer. Don't ask open questions that let them phone it in. Ask about a detail they mentioned or reference something they said that matters.

Then share something real about yourself that invites follow up. Not your whole life story, just something that shows you're a person with actual interests and opinions. The combination forces them to either engage like they're interested or give you short, effort-light replies. If it's the latter, you have your answer.

Send your test message within the next exchange. Don't wait or overthink. If they match your energy and ask back about the specific thing you mentioned, you're on track. If the replies get shorter or stay generic, stop investing. Don't send another message hoping they'll suddenly get interested. They've shown you what you need to know.

If you get a message that's clearly polite but just a bit slow, give it one more round. Two messages is the real test. After that, either they're actually busy and will prove it later, or they're not that interested. Move on and test someone else.