Keep texting alive when she only responds to questions about her

When she only engages after a direct question about her interests, she's showing you the edges of where she's comfortable. She might be nervous. She might be used to being chased. She might be testing to see if you'll actually listen or just wait for your turn to talk. None of these things mean she's not interested. What it does mean is that volunteering information about herself feels risky or unfamiliar right now.

The problem isn't that she's uninterested. It's that the conversation has a clear direction, and it points only at her. She hasn't learned yet that you're worth asking about. Until she does, texting will always feel like work on your end.

A good reply here breaks the pattern by offering information about yourself without making it weird or braggy. This serves two jobs at once. First, it tells her you have a life and thoughts that exist outside of her. Second, it creates room for her to ask you something back. You're not just showing interest. You're being interesting.

The move is to respond to what she said, add a brief story or detail that connects to it, then stop. Let her decide if she wants to know more. If you ask another question immediately after, you've just reset the interview. Give her space to turn toward you.

If you've tried the two-way move a couple of times and she still only engages with direct questions, that's when you know. But one attempt isn't enough data. Send your reply, wait for her response, then see if she asks you anything. If she doesn't, try once more with a different topic. People need a few prompts before they change behavior.

If after two or three attempts she still asks nothing about you, the pattern is real and probably won't change fast. At that point you can either accept that texting will always feel like work, lean into it and ask what you want to know, or step back and see if she reaches out first. Don't keep performing for an audience that isn't watching.