Keep her talking when she ignores half your messages

Selective engagement is not random. If she responds to your observation about her day but ignores your question, she's comfortable with you as a person but not yet ready to invest effort. If she replies to something light but ghosts on anything that requires her to make plans, she's keeping you in a holding pattern.

The pattern tells you where you stand more clearly than full silence does. Full silence is ambiguous. Half replies mean she's still deciding. This matters because your next move depends on understanding what you're working with. If she's busy but likes you, one solid response to the right kind of message will restart things. If she's just lukewarm, no amount of follow-up will fix it.

Stop matching her half-effort with more effort. The move here is to make your next message something she can't just reflexively ignore. This means one clear thread instead of multiple questions. It means something that either moves things forward, a specific plan, a clear boundary, or goes quiet.

If she's been replying with surface stuff, try one message that asks for something real. A real response, a commitment to meet, or nothing. Not in a cold way. Just in a way that signals you know the difference between chatting and interest. She'll either step up or stay where she is. That clarity matters more than conversation filler.

If she doesn't reply within a few days to something that requires a real answer, you have your answer. Don't send a follow-up. Don't send a joke to break the ice. You've already sent the message that mattered.

If a week passes and the pattern is still half replies, stop initiating. This isn't punishment. It's you moving your attention somewhere it's actually wanted. If she comes back, then you know something shifted. If she doesn't, you weren't going anywhere anyway. The time spent waiting for her to decide is time you could spend with someone who doesn't need reminding you exist.