How to ask where things stand when you think they're seeing someone else

Before you ask, look at what changed. Are they taking longer to respond? Shorter replies? Less likely to make plans? Are they still liking your Instagram stories but not texting you back? This isn't about being paranoid. A real shift in availability is usually a signal that something is different on their end.

If they're still active on dating apps, that's data too. It doesn't prove they're in another relationship, but it tells you they haven't taken themselves off the market. The gap between how engaged they were two weeks ago and how they are now is what you're reading. Trust that instinct.

The move here is to ask if they're seeing other people or if they want to keep this exclusive. Don't ask them how they feel about you, what you mean to them, or whether they see a future. Those questions invite them to be vague. A yes-or-no question about whether they're dating others gets you an answer.

Your reply should be calm and casual in tone, even though the question matters. You're not angry or suspicious in how you say it. You're just checking a box. This makes it easier for them to be honest back. If they're a decent person and they are seeing someone else, a straightforward question gives them a clean way to say so.

Send this text when you're both likely to see it and think clearly. Morning or early afternoon works. Not after 10pm. Not when you've been thinking about it all night and sent it in a spiral. You want the tone to land as normal conversation, not emotional crisis.

Give them a full day to respond before you follow up. If they don't answer in 24 hours, that's your answer. They're either scared of the question, already with someone, or not interested enough to have the conversation. If they ghost after this, you know you need to move on. Don't ask again.