Get her number when she says she deletes strangers

She is not saying she will never give you her number. She is saying that a phone number alone, from someone she has not talked to yet, is not enough reason to save it. Her phone fills up with contacts who never text back, or who turned out to be boring, or who made her uncomfortable. She learned to clear them out.

This is actually useful information. She is telling you exactly what will make her save your number. It is not the number itself. It is becoming someone she actually wants to stay in touch with. Most guys miss this and treat the statement as a rejection when it is really a roadmap.

Your reply needs to do two jobs. First, show that you heard her and that it makes sense. You are not offended or surprised. Do not over-explain or sound defensive. Second, your next messages have to give her a reason to hold onto your contact info when you do exchange it. That means real back and forth. Ask something that requires an actual answer. Listen to what she says. Reply to the specific thing she said, not to a generic version of it.

The shift from stranger to someone worth saving happens in real time, in the conversation itself. Every message where you pay attention and share something real makes it slightly less likely that she deletes you later. By the time you ask for her number, she should already want to stay in touch.

Ask for the number after you have had a real exchange. That might be five messages. That might be fifteen. You will feel the shift. She is no longer treating you like a stranger. She is sharing things, asking you questions, matching your energy. That is when you ask. Phrasing matters less than timing. She already knows why you want it.

If she goes silent after you ask, give her three to five days before you send anything else. If nothing comes back, she is not going to give it to you. Move on. Do not send follow-up messages asking if she is there, or making a joke to revive it. That is the answer.