How to get her number on Bumble when she's still deciding

When someone says they're still deciding, they're usually not asking you to convince them. They're watching how you behave when you don't get the yes. A person who hasn't decided is looking for signs that you'll be easy to talk to, not pushy, and that the conversation has enough substance to justify another day of messages. Her phrasing tells you she's already interested enough to keep talking, otherwise she'd have unmatched or stopped replying.

Read the length and warmth of her replies. If she's writing more than one word, asking you questions, or following a thread, the door is open. If her answers are getting shorter and she's ignoring your questions, she's closing it, and the number ask won't fix that. The number is only worth asking for when the chat already has momentum on its own.

Three things need to happen before a number request lands well. First, your last message should give her something easy to answer, like a question about her week or a specific reaction to something she said. Second, you need to show that you heard her hesitation without making it the topic. Acknowledge it lightly and move on. Third, you need to leave her room to say yes without feeling cornered. A question that she can answer with a number or a plan is more likely to get a yes than a direct ask for her digits.

The number itself can come later, once she's voluntarily shared something personal or suggested the conversation should continue elsewhere. If she offers a number or a different app, take it. If she doesn't, the chat on Bumble is still a fine place to get to know her.

If she doesn't reply, wait a day before anything else. A message sent the same evening is usually read as pressure, even if you didn't mean it that way. One follow-up is fine, but it should be lighter than your last message, with no question about the number and no reference to her hesitation. If that also goes unanswered, let it rest. Bumble lets matches go quiet without much consequence, and continuing to message after two silences tends to shrink the chance of a reply later.

Stop when the reply length drops to one word for two or three exchanges in a row, when she stops answering questions, or when she changes the subject to something flat. At that point you've got your answer, and the most useful thing you can do is leave the conversation in a state where she'd feel comfortable coming back to it.