Get her number when she's engaged but deflecting the conversation

The laughing and subject changes together tell you she's interested enough to keep talking, but she's not going to make the move herself. Some people hold back out of shyness. Some are waiting for you to show intent. Some are just not thinking about logistics yet because the conversation is fun.

None of that means you should wait longer. The longer you stay in the zone of light banter without asking for her number, the more you become the funny guy she chats with, not the guy she dates. Her changing the subject is actually useful information. It tells you she's either uncomfortable with silence or she's actively avoiding a natural transition point. Either way, that's your signal to make a move, not keep joking.

You need to interrupt the pattern, not join it. The move is to make a statement about getting her number, not ask permission or try to set it up perfectly. Slip it in after she laughs but before she pivots to something else. The timing matters more than the wording.

Your statement should be low-pressure and matter-of-fact. It signals confidence without needing her to agree immediately. You're not asking if it's okay. You're telling her this is the next natural step. If she deflects, you can lean in once more. If she gives you the number, you're out and you've created momentum.

Send one clear statement about needing her number. Do not follow it up with another message, another explanation, or a joke to soften the blow. She saw it. She knows what you meant.

If she doesn't respond or gives you a non-answer, wait at least a day before you send anything else. If you get a response like 'haha maybe' or she keeps changing the subject, try once more with a light redirect. 'Seriously though' works here. After that second attempt, if she's still not giving it up, accept it and move on. Some people are more comfortable with an app or social media exchange. Let her offer that if she wants to continue.