How to keep texting going without it feeling like a chore

Short replies that answer your question and stop are a signal. So are replies that match your length exactly, with no new thread. If her last message gives you one thing to answer and nothing to build on, the conversation has run out of new material. Repeating the same type of question will not fix that.

Pay attention to whether she asks you anything back. A message that ends with a question of its own is an invitation. A message that only answers yours is a close. You don't need to read every message like a test, but notice when you're doing all the carrying. That imbalance is what makes texting feel like homework, and it usually shows up before either person says anything about it.

Replace the generic question with a fact, a take, or a small story that connects to something she already said. If she mentioned a bad commute, say what your worst commute looked like instead of asking what hers is like. If she likes a band, say the one song you keep replaying. The reply then gives her something real to react to, and a reaction is easier to send than an answer.

Keep your own messages roughly as long as hers, and let a message be allowed to end without a question. A closed statement that still has some personality in it leaves room for her to pick the thread up, and it stops you from asking questions you don't actually care about the answer to.

If the conversation has been running for a week and still has the same energy, the next move is a call or a specific plan, not a better message. Pick a concrete suggestion, such as a coffee on Thursday or a walk after work, and make it easy to say yes to. Vague offers like "we should hang out sometime" get polite agreement and no date.

If she engages with the plan, it's worth more than fifty texts. If she sidesteps or gives a vague answer, you have your answer too. Don't stack another round of questions on top of an unanswered plan, because that tells her the texting is what you wanted, not her.