Ask him to text you more during the day

When someone only texts you at night, your brain picks up on a pattern: you're the person he reaches for when the day is done, when he's winding down, when other options have closed. That's not the same as thinking about you during his actual life. A daytime text, even a small one, signals that you crossed his mind while he was doing something else. It says you're in his head, not just his evening routine. The real issue isn't that he needs to text constantly. It's that the current pattern makes you feel like an option he gets to, not someone he prioritizes. That feeling is telling you something worth listening to.

Your message has two jobs. First, it names what you actually want, not what he's doing wrong. Say you want more connection throughout the day, more small moments, more of his presence in your waking hours. Don't frame it as 'you only text at night' or 'you never check in.' The difference matters. Second, your message has to make it low-pressure and easy for him to say yes. If he feels accused or defensive, he'll either shut down or give you texts that feel obligated, which defeats the point. You're asking for something, not demanding it. The test is simple: could he read this and feel like you like him, or would he read it and feel like he's failing a test?

Send this when you're calm and not in the middle of an evening texting session with him. A random afternoon or morning is fine. Give him at least three to five days before you interpret silence as a no. People miss messages, get distracted, or need time to sit with it. If he ignores it completely or makes excuses, that's information. It tells you he either can't or won't show up that way. Don't keep bringing it up or rewording the same request. You've said it once, clearly. After that, watch what he does. If he starts texting you during the day, even occasionally, that's a yes. If nothing changes after a week, you have your answer, and you get to decide what that means for you.