How to ask about his intentions without seeming needy

If he's been inconsistent, flaky, or only texts when he wants to see you, that's the diagnosis right there. He's probably keeping his options open. Or he doesn't know what he wants. Either way, after two months you should not have to guess. A man who wants a relationship usually finds ways to show up for you between dates. He remembers details. He makes plans more than three days in advance. He introduces you to people in his life. If you're mostly seeing him on weekends or late nights, or if conversations stay surface level, he's showing you exactly where you stand. The message you're planning to send is not the problem. The real issue is whether you're willing to hear a lukewarm answer and then act on it.

A good message skips the apologies and the setup. You lead with the fact that you value your time and you need to know his actual plans. No accusations. No listing what you've done together. No asking him to prove anything. Just: I need to know if you see this going somewhere, or if you're not really looking for anything serious right now. Then stop. Give him room to either commit or be honest about not being ready. If he deflects or turns it around on you, that is his answer. You're not being pushy by asking this. You're being clear about what matters to you.

Don't send this during an argument or after he's ignored you for days. Send it after a good date or conversation when the vibe is light enough that he won't feel attacked. A weekday afternoon text is better than late night. Then give him at least 24 hours to respond. If he ignores it or takes three days to reply with something half-hearted, you have your answer. You don't need to send a follow-up or ask differently. The fact that he won't engage with a simple, fair question tells you he's not ready to be serious with you. After that, you decide whether you keep things casual or step back.