Ask her out when she only responds to your texts

She answers your questions. She uses emoji. She keeps the thread going when you text her. But she never asks you about your day, never sends the first message, never says "hey, what are you up to?" That's the pattern that matters here.

This doesn't mean she dislikes you. It means she hasn't moved you into the category of "person I pursue." She's comfortable talking to you, but comfort and interest aren't the same thing. Texting her more, or texting her better, won't change that. The only variable that shifts her mindset is spending actual time together.

Your message has to do two things. First, it proposes an actual plan, not a vague suggestion. "We should grab coffee sometime" dies in texting. "Want to get coffee at Brew Lab on Saturday at 3?" forces a real decision. She either says yes or no. There's nothing to hide behind.

Second, your tone stays light and unbothered. You're not hoping she says yes. You're not asking permission. You're offering her something and assuming she'll say yes until she doesn't. That's the difference between sounding needy and sounding like someone who actually has other things going on.

Send your ask-out message when you'd naturally be texting her anyway, not at an odd hour. She sees it. Now you stop. You don't text again, you don't joke about it, you don't try to sweeten the deal. You let her respond.

If she says yes, you have your answer and a date. If she says no or ghosts you for a week, you also have your answer. It just took a few days to confirm what the responsive-but-never-curious pattern already told you. After three days of silence, move on. Sending follow-ups, explaining the plan better, or asking again just confirms you're more invested than she is.