How to ask if he's seeing anyone else without seeming insecure

You're asking this because something feels unresolved. Either he's being vague about his life and other people, or you've caught him on dating apps, or you're just at that point where you need to know the deal. The fact that you're wondering means you've already sensed something is off balance.

Read the pattern before you ask. If he's texting daily but never talks about the future or introduces you to anyone, that's a signal. If he's been hot and cold, that's different from steadily interested but unclear about labels. The reason you're asking matters because it changes how you phrase it. You're not being paranoid if your gut is picking up on real behavior.

Good replies cut the BS. They don't hint or test him. They name the thing. The move is to tell him what you want to know and why, then actually listen to his answer without turning it into a fight.

You need to do two jobs here. First, be clear about what you're actually asking. Not "Do you have other options" or "Are you a player." Ask whether he's dating other people or whether this is exclusive. Second, give him a real chance to answer. Don't pile on follow-up questions or get defensive if he says yes. Let him speak. If he dodges or gets defensive, that's your answer too.

Text is how you set up the conversation, not where you have it. Over text, everything sounds harder and colder than it is. He can't hear your tone. You can't read his face. Misunderstandings blow up.

Send a text like "Hey, I want to talk about where this is going when we see each other" or pick up the phone. The conversation itself should take five minutes. If he avoids it or says he's not ready to talk about it, that tells you something important. A guy who's interested in you will talk about it. After you ask, give him a day or two to respond if you're on the phone. Don't expect an instant answer. If he ghosts after you ask, you have your answer.