Ask if he wants a future with you without seeming pushy

If he dodges, changes the subject, or gives you "I don't know, let's just see where it goes," that is information. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you. It means he's either uncertain, scared of commitment, not ready to say it out loud, or not seeing the same future as you. The worst thing you can do is assume it will change if you wait longer or ask better. People who want a future with someone usually say so, even if they're nervous about it. A "maybe someday" after three months is usually a no wearing a question mark.

Skip the formal sit-down vibe. The best version happens mid-conversation when things are light, not when you've both blocked out time to talk about feelings. Mention something concrete about the future without making it about him. Say something like "I've been thinking about X" or "I'm starting to picture Y." This gives him space to agree or add his own thoughts instead of feeling like you're asking him to commit on the spot.

Avoid yes-or-no questions. Don't ask "Do you see a future with me?" Ask "What does next year look like to you?" or "How do you think about us in six months?" Open questions let him show you his thinking instead of giving you a defensive one-word answer.

Timing matters more than wording. Have it in person, in daylight, when you've got time to talk without rushing. Not right before he leaves town, not when he's stressed about work, and not when you're already upset about something else. Three months is reasonable. Before that feels premature. After six months without any talk of the future, you've waited long enough.

If he gives you a real answer that's different from what you want, don't try to negotiate or convince him. You got your answer. If he deflects and won't engage, ask one more time clearly and then make a decision. Don't hang around waiting for him to suddenly want something he already told you, by his silence, that he doesn't.