How to ask her out after she jokes she never meets people from Hinge

A line like 'I never meet anyone from Hinge, I think I'm cursed' is built to get a laugh, so it is mostly a bid for a light reply. Underneath it she is telling you she has been through a stretch of matches that went nowhere and that she would like something different. You do not have to decode it further than that. It is an opening, and it is almost always safe to walk through.

The mistake is treating the joke as proof she is discouraged or not interested in meeting. Usually she is simply self-aware and fine with the topic. If the conversation has been warm, a playful remark about the app is a signal she is comfortable enough to joke about her dating life, which is a good sign for an in-person plan. If the replies have been getting shorter and flatter, the joke may be a way of closing the thread, and you should read the rest of the chat before pushing.

Once you have acknowledged the joke, the reply has to make the ask concrete. Name a day, or a rough window like this weekend or Thursday evening, and attach a simple activity so she is not picturing a vague open-ended hang. A coffee, a drink somewhere you both would like, or a walk nearby are all easy to say yes to because they have an obvious shape and an obvious end.

Keep the joke to a single beat, then move on. Something light that signals you were paying attention is enough. Then ask, and stop there. A question with one clear answer is easier to reply to than two options, and far easier than a hedge. If she has mentioned a neighbourhood, a food, or a habit, you can build the plan around that, because it shows you were listening and gives her something to respond to.

Send the ask in the afternoon or early evening, when people are relaxed and likely to be reading messages, rather than late at night when a plan can feel like a bigger deal. Give her a reasonable window to answer, usually somewhere between several hours and a day depending on how fast the thread has been moving. If she has been replying within minutes, a long silence is worth noticing.

If she does not answer, do not send a second message that is heavier than the first. A short, friendly follow-up the next day, something like a light reference back to the joke with the same plan still on the table, is fair. If that also goes unanswered, let it drop and stop. One follow-up is enough. Continuing to press after two unanswered messages reads as pressure, and the easiest way to lose a chance is to make her feel she has to explain why she is not replying.