How to ask her if she wants to stop dating other people

She's still on the apps. This means she hasn't decided yet, even if things are going well with you. She might be keeping her options open because she's not sure about the pace, or she wants to see how a few more dates go, or she simply hasn't thought about it. She's not stalling you on purpose. She's uncertain whether this is moving toward something real or staying casual. When you ask, you're asking her to make a choice. That's different from what's happening now. She needs to know that choosing you means closing the door on other people, and she needs to actually want that.

First, state your own position clearly. You want exclusivity. Not in a desperate way, but as a person who knows what he wants and is ready to move forward. This removes the guessing game. Second, make it a choice, not a request for validation. You're saying 'I want to be exclusive with you, so I'm taking my apps down and I'm asking if you want to do the same.' That framing means you're both deciding to move in the same direction, not you pleading for her to pick you. Third, give her room to say no without it being awkward. If she's not ready, she should be able to say that and have it be okay. A message that feels like an attack or a trap will get a defensive answer, not an honest one.

Send this after three to five solid dates where you've both been consistent about making plans and the conversation flows. If you've only seen her once or twice, wait. She hasn't had time to imagine a future with you. If it's been months and you still haven't asked, you're signaling that exclusivity doesn't matter to you, and that reads as lack of interest. Send the message in the afternoon or early evening, not late at night. If she doesn't reply within 48 hours, assume she's either thinking about it or avoiding the question. Send one follow-up after a week that briefly acknowledges the silence and makes space for her to respond without pressure. After that, you have your answer. Move on.