How do I respond to someone who says looking forward to seeing you soon

When someone writes "looking forward to seeing you soon" without a date, she's usually telling you two things. She wants to meet, and she isn't ready or isn't able to commit to a specific day yet. Sometimes that's because her schedule is loose. Sometimes she's testing whether you'll take the lead. You can't tell which from the text alone, so don't try to decode it too hard.

Read the surrounding messages. If the conversation has been running for a while and you already have a rough idea of what you'd do together, "soon" is a casual way of saying the date is on the table. If you've only talked a couple of times, the same words are a little more tentative, and she may be waiting to see whether you're the one who puts a day on it.

Either way, the message is positive. Your job is to acknowledge it and then turn the warmth into a plan.

The kind of reply that fits here is short and warm, with a single line that shows you're happy she said it. Keep it to a sentence. The feeling line should be plain and specific to the two of you, not a big declaration. If you can tie it to something you've talked about, even better.

Then move to a question that narrows the plan. The question should offer something she can answer quickly, like a day that works or a rough part of the week. Open questions like "when works for you?" hand her the whole job. A question with two or three options is easier to answer, and she can just pick one.

A draft is the right shape when it has one warm line and one concrete question, and nothing else. If it's a paragraph, or if it asks her to decide everything at once, it's too much. Leave out any mention of how long you've been waiting, any joke that asks her to reassure you, and any second topic.

If you reply within the hour, she'll see that you're keen and she'll probably answer in kind. That's fine. Don't wait a day to respond to a friendly message, because a long gap after "looking forward to seeing you" reads as cooling off. Keep your reply in the same window as her message, and if you're in a long conversation, let it breathe for a few exchanges.

If she answers with another vague line, don't keep asking open questions. Pick a day yourself, name a plan, and ask if it works. A specific suggestion is easy to say yes or no to, and it rescues a plan that's been drifting. If she answers with a day, lock it in with a time and a place in the same message.

If you've made one specific suggestion and she's gone quiet for several days, send one light follow-up that offers a different option. If that also gets nothing, stop chasing. Two unanswered attempts tell you what you need to know, and the plan can wait.