Hinge Reply When She Says She's Hard to Impress With First Messages

When a woman writes that she's hard to impress, she is usually describing her inbox. She has got a lot of 'hey beautiful' and 'how's your week going', and the line is a warning that those will get nothing. It is not a request to be dazzled. Read it as a note about what not to send.

That means the practical question is what she has not seen before. Look at the specific things on her profile, a place she mentions, a strange prompt answer, a photo with something unusual in the background. Pick one detail that you actually have something to say about. A reply that shows you read her profile carefully will already stand out, because most people don't.

If she has answered a prompt, the reply should respond to what she actually wrote before it asks her anything. Take the thing she said and react to it honestly, with your own view or a small story. Do not skip straight to a question, because a question on its own forces her to do the work again.

Once you've responded, you can ask one thing that is easy to answer and goes somewhere. Choose a question with a real answer, not a yes or no. The goal is for her to have something to say back, not to feel interviewed.

If you send a long thoughtful message at midnight it can read as either lonely or like you have been thinking about it too much. Send during a time she is likely to be awake and checking the app, usually the early evening on a weekday or a bit later on a weekend. Keep the message short enough to read in one glance on a phone.

If she doesn't reply within two or three days, let it sit. Don't send a follow-up that repeats the original or adds a joke about her being hard to impress. One gentle second message after about a week is fine if you have a new, specific thing to say. After that, the match has told you what she wants, which is nothing.