Hinge reply when her answer is she's been trying to learn guitar
How to reply on Hinge when she says she's been trying to learn guitar. Read what the answer signals and how to keep the conversation going.
When someone answers a Hinge prompt with "I've been trying to learn guitar," she is giving you a small, real detail about what she does with her spare time. It is not a joke and it is not a request. She is telling you she's in the middle of something unfinished, and the honest read is that she may be a little self-conscious about how it's going.
A good reply does two things. It shows you heard the specific thing she said, and it gives her an easy way to talk about it without having to perform. Most people who answer this way are hoping someone will ask what song they're working on or how long they've been at it. Very few are hoping to be told they should play for them.
The reply does not need to be clever. It needs to be specific enough that she can tell you read her answer, and open enough that answering it is easy.
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Read the admission, not the instrument
The word guitar is doing less work here than the word trying. People write this when they have started something and feel mildly unsure about it. The "very slowly" version is even more telling, because it is a small pre-emptive apology for not being good yet. She has already told you she is at the beginning, so the signal is that she would like to be met where she actually is.
That means your reply should treat the learning as ongoing and ordinary. You are not reviewing her skill. You are asking about the process: what made her pick it up, what she is working on, whether it is frustrating. Those questions tell her you see the effort without grading it. If she mentions a teacher, an app, or a song, that is the thread to pull on.
Shape the reply around her next sentence
Two or three kinds of reply tend to fit this. The first is a curious question about how it started or what she is learning now. Its job is to get her talking about her own experience. A draft is the right kind when it names one specific thing from her answer and asks about it, and it should leave out any comment about your own ability.
The second is a light, warm observation that connects her answer to something visible on her profile. It works when the link is real and small, and it should never feel like you are showing off that you read the whole page. The third is a direct, friendly invitation to continue the topic, such as asking what she would play if she could play one song right now. That kind works only once there is some back and forth already, and it should be phrased as a question she can answer in a sentence without needing to perform.
Reply in daylight, not at 2am
Send the reply within the same day she answered if you can, while the prompt is still fresh on both sides. A message that arrives a week later will feel like you went looking for a reason to write. If you are matching late at night, wait until the next morning, because a playful late-night message about guitars can read as more suggestive than you meant.
If she answers, let the conversation breathe. If she replies with a short line, do not escalate with a longer message. If she does not answer after two or three days, drop it and move on rather than sending a follow-up about guitars. If the match has gone quiet for a week with no replies on either side, it is finished, and you can let it go without a message.
Why these replies fail
“Ha, so you're the one person who's going to make my ears bleed. Play me something when you're ready.”
It jokes about her ability and then asks for a performance, which puts her on the spot before she has a reason to trust you.
“Nice, guitar is awesome. I've played for like ten years, it changed my life.”
It turns her answer into a chance to talk about yourself, and it sets a skill comparison she did not ask for.
“That's cool!”
It could be sent to any answer on her profile, so it shows she has not been read and gives her nothing to reply to.
Common mistakes
- Making a joke about her being slow or bad at it, which reads as mocking the thing she is nervous about.
- Asking for a performance straight away, such as asking her to play something for you.
- Sending a generic line like "that's cool" that could be attached to any answer on the page.
- Talking about your own guitar history at length before asking a single question about hers.
- Replying with a message so big that it feels like you are pressuring her to match your effort.
Questions people ask
- Is it a good sign if she says she's learning guitar?
- It is a neutral to mildly positive signal. It tells you she is trying new things and is willing to share something a bit personal. It does not tell you how interested she is in you, so the next few messages will show that more clearly than the prompt answer will.
- Should I ask her to play something for me?
- Not early on. Asking for a performance puts her on the spot when she has only just told you she is a beginner. Wait until you have talked a bit more and the request feels like a natural continuation rather than a test.
- How long should I wait for her to reply?
- A day is normal and two days is fine. If nothing comes back after about three days, do not send a second message about the guitar. Let the match sit, and if she responds later, pick it up from there.
- What if I play guitar too?
- Mention it only if she asks, or once the conversation has some back and forth. Keep the focus on her learning rather than your experience. People who are still beginners often feel judged when the other person's skill comes up too early.
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